We all have times in our lives where we get caught up in people/situations/ideas and then wonder after: what was I thinking?
The most illustrative example would be losing yourself in a romantic relationship and then not being interested in that person after a period of time. You probably wondered: why was I so into that person? We had nothing in common and I am not at all attracted to them now! This is the “what was I thinking” prototype though it applies to so many different experiences in our lives.
Here are some reasons you may have these experiences:
- Hidden beliefs: You may have had some hidden beliefs that put you into the situation. Let’s say you stayed at an unrewarding job even though you had other options. You may have had a hidden belief that you were unworthy of a better position. A lot of people have hidden beliefs around money and security (“If I leave this job I will lose financial stability) another one is “I don’t deserve to be happy”. I can help you identify your hidden beliefs in a phone reading.
- Preparing you for next person/situation: I love this one! Often times bad situations prepare you for better ones. Sometimes we have to learn what we don’t like to find out what we truly do want in our lives. Think back to a time when you were caught up with a group of friends you knew were not good for you. Likely you were drawn to them for superficial reasons. When it came time to move on you probably valued your new friends more and looked for deeper connections.
- Old Karma/Past Lives: Difficult people come into our lives to teach us lessons. You are drawn to people and situations you are supposed to work on to grow. Often times we have past lives with them and sometimes old karma to work out.
- Suffering creates growth: I do believe we are all here to constantly grow and evolve. There are lessons you learn from suffering that you simply can’t learn any other way.
- You learned to help others: See above. Learning lessons creates compassion . We become better at helping others.
What you can do:
- Be an observer: You will move through the lesson more quickly if you notice what is happening.
- Ask for the situation to be healed and cleared. You may want to do your own ritual around this.
- Be compassionate: If life lessons are supposed to teach us compassion-try as be as compassionate as you can.
- Create new situations: Set an intention to attract higher people/situations in your life.
- Distract yourself: Being caught up in a person/situation can cause obsessive thinking. Distract yourself any way that works for you. Sometimes I picture myself doing a dance or juggling–it makes light of it and shifts my mind in a different direction.
- Have perspective: Life can be a series of striving, not getting what you want, and then realizing it wasn’t for you. This one will pass and another one will show up!
Please note my new rates. Phone readings are now 45 minutes/$95 and email readings $35 per question.
I look forward to hearing from you! -Julie
